I was reading Casey’s blog, and I came across this article.
Reasons why I loved this story:
- It reminded me of what I want.
- It showed me that there are people out there who are capable of being good.
- It was one of the saddest/sweetest stories I have read.
- I love the way that in probably the MOST difficult situation this guy used it for the better… became a better husband/father.
- It’s so cute the way he talks about his children
- The way he talks about his wife is super sweet.
- It also reminded me that what I want is not bad or weird.
- The way he talked about relationships as not emotions and that there is NO perfect person.
- He takes his children on dates.
- He talks about his wife and him depending on each other but also having independence.
- He puts people above things.
Everybody could learn how a thing or two from this guy…
This is the thing: When you hit 28 or 30, everything begins to divide. You can see very clearly two kinds of people. On one side, people who have used their 20s to learn and grow, to find … themselves and their dreams, people who know what works and what doesn’t, who have pushed through to become real live adults. Then there’s the other kind, who are hanging onto college, or high school even, with all their might. They’ve stayed in jobs they hate, because they’re too scared to get another one. They’ve stayed with men or women who are good but not great, because they don’t want to be lonely. … they mean to develop intimate friendships, they mean to stop drinking like life is one big frat party. But they don’t do those things, so they live in an extended adolescence, no closer to adulthood than when they graduated.
Don’t be like that. Don’t get stuck. Move, travel, take a class, take a risk. There is a season for wildness and a season for settledness, and this is neither. This season is about becoming. Don’t lose yourself at happy hour, but don’t lose yourself on the corporate ladder either. Stop every once in a while and go out to coffee or climb in bed with your journal.
Ask yourself some good questions like: “Am I proud of the life I’m living? What have I tried this month? … Do the people I’m spending time with give me life, or make me feel small? Is there any brokenness in my life that’s keeping me from moving forward?”
Now is your time. Walk closely with people you love, and with people who believe … life is a grand adventure. Don’t get stuck in the past, and don’t try to fast-forward yourself into a future you haven’t yet earned. Give today all the love and intensity and courage you can, and keep traveling honestly along life’s path.
— Relevant magazine (via)