I Feel so Soulful Today and a Small Rant

Doesn’t this song just make you feel so…happy? It does me!

I feel like I am on the verge of something exctiting…but I am not sure yet what exactly!

On to another note….this makes me so angry!!!

“We are setting up that cycle of poverty for him and his family,” Dr. Janet Dunlop said, the Chief Academic Officer for the Broken Arrow school district.

She is talking about one student who did not pass the ACE tests that are required to get a diploma.

Dunlop said it’s because his family’s house caught fire and he was homeless while supporting a disabled mother and autistic brother.

“That’s a lot of weight to put on one child and meet these ACE requirements,” she said. “He has worked so hard and has passed all but one test.”

I have mixed feelings about this, yes students need to be held responsible but you are really going to base how much they learned in 13 years to  test! How about actually, taking care of the situation as it goes, when they are in 6th grade and can’t pass English. Instead we pass them through classes just because of “No Child Left Behind” – then we don’t let them graduate when they are Seniors because they can’t pass the test. Does this make sense to anyone? Or is just me!

I  have seen Juniors and Seniors who can’t read and write but somehow they got through, do I think they will pass this ridiculous test? Probably not, then what? – tell them… ” I am sorry, you didn’t pass the test, you can’t graduate now… repeat or drop out. Those are your options.”  Who’s fault is it anyways?? The teachers who passed them in elementary school, middle school and in high school for fear of not getting your numbers up! For the fear that your school will be on the dreaded “list” and you will lose your job.

It’s such a double-standard and makes me righteously angry.

Sometimes I actually want a  teaching job (that’s my degree) but then I get so angry at the public school system that I can’t even…

Sorry… this post wasn’t really supposed to go that way, I just wanted to voice my opinion on this!


Dear Daughter,

Back when I was in college I was student teaching in my parenting class and I had to come up with a lesson that would include English skills.

So – I thought a letter to their future child would be great!

The rules of my assignment were that it had to be in letter format and they could write to whomever they wished: a future son, future daughter, if they didn’t think they would want children they could write to a niece, a nephew… pretty much they just had to pick a child, any child real or made-up  and give them advice and talk to them. I wanted to see them incorporate things from the semester and I wanted it to be grammatically correct etc.

They loved the assignment! Something I thought they would moan and complain about and essentially blow off they took their time and they put a ton of thought and their whole hearts  into it. They were only supposed to write at least three paragraphs, they blew that out of the water and most of them wrote pages. They were asking me they could have the letters back after I graded them because they really wanted to someday hand those over to this child they were writing to. My teacher loved it and said I did good, by helping a low-socioeconomic teen realize they actually have a future and get them to daydream about good things to come instead of focusing on the present.

Anyways, one of the BEST assignments I ever did, and if I ever get my own classroom this is something I will continue to do. I even made copies of their letters and kept them in my teaching box I have. (they were just so sweet…)

Then today I was reading this post which linked me to this post and I thought, Why haven’t I already done this?!

So… here are some tidbits of what I would like to share with my future daughter:

Dear Daughter,

I don’t know when we will meet, but it will happen. There are things I already think about… all the fun things we can do and the things I would want to share you.

If I never tell you anything else it would be these things:

Do not let other people intimidate you: they are people, just like you. “They put their pant’s on one leg at a time…” just like one of my old manager’s once told me.

It’s hard, but you need not conform to society or the other girls…be yourself. It’s a lot less stressful. I wish I would have known this a long time ago. Be you. Like what you like & you don’t need to justify that to you anyone. If it makes YOU happy… so be it!!

You don’t have to have control of everything… sometimes life will just not cooperate with you… and if it has to – it will remind you this. (This is where I am at now at 26 year’s old. My plans looked slightly different… but it’s ok.)

Money is important but it’s more important to pick something that brings you passion…trust me on this one!

Honesty will get you a lot further then anything else. Remember this.

As far as the love advice… I don’t know…yet! Someday, I am sure I will be able to look back on where I am now and say something like -” it’s there, you just have to wait and be patient” and “you will know when you know” and all the clichés that have been told to me. As of yet, I am still figuring this out. This I do know though…and that is don’t settle. Don’t settle because they are easy to be with, and don’t settle because they are OK. Too many of my friends have made this mistake and later regret it. From what I hear, I think you know in your gut when it’s not right. I believe this to be true!  This is something a good friend told me and I think she might be on to something…. ” Just because he is GOOD doesn’t mean he is GOOD FOR YOU.” There is one other thing and I do know this from experience – Don’t let a guy you are dating control you. If this happens you need to get out and fast! You will slowly lose yourself and in the end you won’t even recognize the person you have become due to the manipulation/control/self-esteem bashes.  Your friends will notice this first (more than likely you will be oblivious or in denial) please child, listen to them. They see things you don’t or refuse to look at.

One last thing…if you make mistakes which you will. You will rebel, you will fight common sense sometimes, you will mess up and things might get ugly for little periods in your life don’t let it discourage you. I hope and pray that you can see those times are for the greater good… They are bad and they are hurtful but they can be used. One day you may be able to pass those little moments off on your own daughter to learn from. She may or may not listen but it’s there and she has the access to know beforehand how it could turn out and teaching her is one of your greatest responsibilities.

Family and Consumer Sciences…What?

In college I couldn’t decide on a major. I started just doing basics – when I ran out of those classes I was forced to pick something. I knew I wanted something fun and different but what?

I started in Family Life Sciences – I thought maybe I would be some kind of counselor working with families. When I realized that they must have at least Master’s if not higher degrees plus at least a two-year internship with little pay in the long run I changed my mind. If I HAD to go to school that long (even though I  really like school.) I wasn’t going to do it for that pay and that kind of stress. I even had my old boss talk me out of it. He said he was a family counselor and it’s completely stressful and very emotionally draining. I could have also been a social worker with degree – but, it was the same. No pay for a VERY stressful and emotionally changeling job. I just couldn’t do it.

So– I changed majors to 2D painting. I didn’t know what I would actually do with it, but it was really fun. It was strange how people would respond to me when I would tell them what I was doing.. “Oh! that’s fun! That’s super cool!” to “Ohhhh.. that’s interesting. What are you going to do with that?” Since I couldn’t justify it other than than I liked it, i decided I really probably should pick something a little more lucrative. (sometimes, I do wish I would have stuck with it though.)

After one semester, I changed again to business per my father’s advice. BORING. I absolutely hated it. The classes were sooo blah, and I couldn’t get into it.

So then I it came time to enroll again and it was decision time. If I ever wanted to graduate. I would have to pick a major and stick with it stat! So I thought, what do I like to do and what am I good at.

  • I really like working with children. (I was working at child development center.)
  • I like art. I like being creative
  • I like really prefer more of human development classes as opposed to business.
  • I want something that will take a lot of the classes I already have so I am not starting from scratch.

Then I found it! I was looking through the school book of majors and I found Family Consumer Science Education. AKA: Home Ec. Teacher!

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